Friday, April 16, 2010

Sins of Admission

This piece appears in Commonweal next week. It is written by an anonymous Notre Dame grad who is in a homosexual relationship and sends her sons to a Catholic elementary school. Should be required reading. One paragraph:

I do not take the teachings of the church and its two thousand years of accumulated wisdom lightly. I never have. But in the actual experience of loving my partner, I knew that our love was good. It was as simple as that. Our love as we experienced it was a flowering of our faith, and not its undoing. This was so overwhelmingly apparent that I was immediately suspicious of my own self. The possibilities for self-deception are infinite, I knew. And I was sure “I know that our love is good” was right up there with “It seemed like a good idea at the time” as the phrase of choice of love- and lust-addled adulterers and sundry other kinds of sinner. But at the end of the day, one is left with oneself, one’s conscience (however formed), and the stirrings of the Spirit. At the time I listened over and over again to a jazzy rendition of the Quaker hymn “How Can I Keep from Singing?” and decided, ultimately, to sing.

9 comments:

Joe said...

It occurs to me that, in its 2000 years of accumulated wisdom, the Church has a developed a specific system and terminology for those who prioritize their own selves, their consciences, and the perceived stirrings of the Spirit over her own infallible teachings. That's fairly clear.

What I don't understand is why someone who clearly disagrees with the Church's claim to be the infallible authority on matters of faith and morals chooses to identify with it. Help?

Anonymous said...

Joe and Brandon, you just made me think of an excellent quote that applies so well to you!

"They monopolize virtue, these weak, hopelessly sick people, there is no doubt of it: 'we alone are the good and just,' they say... They walk among us as embodies reproaches, as warnings to us--as if [gayness and a sense of dignity] were in themselves necessarily vicious things for which one must pay some day, and pay bitterly; how ready they themselves are at bottom to make one pay; how they crave to be hangmen. There is among them an abundance of the vengeful disguised as judges... Nor is there lacking among them that most disgusting species of the vain, the mendacious failures whose aim it is to appear as 'beautiful souls' and who bring to market their deformed sensuality, wrapped up in verses and other swaddling clothes, as 'purity of heart': the species of moral masturbaters..."

You would have thought that Nietzsche was writing about you assholes.

Brandon said...

Dear Anonymous,

While my editors believe that hate should be removed from the blog, I disagree. I don't intend to stifle the opinions of others because I'm squarely in the Voltaire camp on free speech. I wouldn't write this out here, but because you are too afraid to comment under your real name I cannot contact you directly. I invite you to contact me at bpayne1@nd.edu or 619-750-7381 so that we can discuss what you find wrong with my post. I'll be waiting, and I'll be hoping that you can have a discussion without block quoting from Nietzsche.

Thanks,
Brandon

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Steve said...

After reading Anonymous' quote, I'm not so sure that he was the hateful one. It looks like he/she is trying to point out that the article was both metaphysically arrogant (ONLY "we are the good and the just" because we supposedly have access to some absolute Truth) and hateful (craving to be hangmen of people whom they believe reject this supposed Truth). I don't think that accusing him of block-quoting strikes down his overall point (which, after all, seems to be nothing more than to point out through a hyperbolic Nietzschean quote that your article is based off of shaky motivations, etc.).

Maybe calling you "assholes" can be considered hateful, but honestly, if your editors think hate should be removed from the blog, I'm not sure how many of your articles would be left...

Anonymous said...

talking of sins:
Bishop Mixa - who recently gave a lecture at ND - resigns. Just another Catholic hypocrite.

http://www.monstersandcritics.com/news/europe/news/article_1549990.php/Report-Slapping-Catholic-bishop-resigns-in-Germany

Brandon said...

Okay, well, I tried. But it appears that 1) no one grew the nuts to actually contact me and 2) no one actually read the article (titled by the Commonweal editors "Sins of Admission: Why Wouldn’t Gay Parents Pick a Catholic School?"), which basically argues, from the perspective of a lesbian Notre Dame graduate, that gay couples should be welcome to send their children to Catholic schools. If you disagree with what the author is telling about her life then I really don't know what to tell you (other than I have no idea how she is trying to be a hangman). If you disagree with me sharing it because I'm some how hateful for spreading her story, then I just have no idea what you are bitching about.

Steve said...

Actually, looks like Brandon was in the right by posting this and Joe in the wrong for his comment. Btw, are the two anonymous people the same or different? eh, whatever

Sarah said...

Hardly an acknowledgment that you just didn't read the article before you opened your mouth and started complaining about "hate" on a blog you obviously don't expect to agree with, Steve. And how would you know Brandon is "in the right" and Joe is "in the wrong" without your own supposed "access to some higher Truth?"